Anonymous: wrote: Pleasure is temporary and happiness is eternal.
To be honest, I disagree. I think any kind of happiness is only temporary, since life as a whole is a concatenation of temporary states of mind. Which is why it's so important to lean back and just enjoy the moment once in a while. But without sadness, there is no happiness and vice versa. I guess the yin-yang symbol displays that perfectly.
Either way, I don't think there is any such thing like eternal happiness. Imagine a cotton socks factory, with the cotton socks being endorphins. If there's no cotton, you can't make socks. So from a ecological point of view, what would be the next best thing? Change your materials to something different. And that's what our brains do all the time, which is why we constantly pursue the next step of happiness, even though this will also only be temporary. So what we humans don't get is that the constant pursuit of happiness is essencially pretty useless, though it's not bad at all because that is our drive, our need to go on. Living for the moment is hard, I know, but being able to free yourself of the pursuit of happiness itself is much more rewarding than any new car you buy or porn you watch or blunt you smoke can ever be.
One way to achieve that mindset is meditation. It's hard to learn completely shutting down your thoughts for more than 2 seconds, but once you get the gist of it, it'll be easier on you. And doing that regularly for 15 minutes a day for 1 month will already make you feel happier, more balanced, more connected to the world.
As for myself, I've been addicted to many things in my life. Porn, weed, gaming, alcohol, tobacco. I even got withdrawal symptoms from lack of social contacts at one point in my life, if that counts. I found a rather weird way to counter almost all of those addictions (aside from tobacco, but I'm working on it and social contacts for obvious reasons). I use subliminal messages to essentially interrupt my world view and learn and adapt a new, better attitude. Subliminals are basically just messages read out by text to speech programs, but so quiet that you can't consciously pick them up. That leads to those messages and positive beliefs being ingrained into your brain without the brain questioning it.
There's this friend of mine who struggled with weed, tobacco and alcohol too. I made her a subliminal file and within only 3 weeks, she stopped smoking weed, drinking alcohol and the consumption of cigarettes was reduced quite a lot. She only smokes them halfway and with less frequency now. I also added suggestions that makes her feel less stress, and more happiness in general since she's not very emotionally stable, especially when she listens to certain songs, and she also feels those changes in her everyday life.
So it goes to show it's not only me that this kind of thing has helped. I did try it for my porn addiction before, and it helped me to get some distance to that as well.
Though I have to admit that I relapsed multiple times as well, before I was able to completely "cure" myself. In the end, subliminals are only an option to make the way easier but it won't get you to the goal in an instant. It takes time and constant repitition for the messages to fully bloom. Also, I wouldn't advice using youtube subliminals because in the recent times there have been quite a few subliminal makers exposed who added harmful suggestions. So if you want to try it out, it would be better to create the subliminals yourself. I don't mind questions regarding how to make them and how to correctly phrase the subliminals. I'd be happy to help. And yes, you can make them entirely for free within less than 20 minutes if you already have a script.