Barack Obama wrote:Imo distraction is not the solution, it just delays the problem and makes it even harder. You just have to deal with it, accept it once and for all. It may be hard, but once you've really thought it through you leave a burden behind.
"Yes, that actually happened. But I have learned from the experience and now I strive to make the best decisions in the future."
You can't change the past, so the most you can do is accept it and learn from it, otherwise it is irrelevant. Think about what do you have to do now/in the future.
I agree 100% but accepting and learning from something doesn't mean you'll forget it. I've accepted and learned from my past with my abusive ex for example, but sometimes something will trigger a memory. I don't believe it's necessary for me to sit and reflect on this yet again, so I find something to distract me.